Another one of those multi-link paths today. I had conversation with Ruth Seeley of No Spin PR, which led me to follow her blogroll to Fiona Walsh’s blog, where Walsh suggested a Marshall Goldsmith post on asking one tough question.
That question, asked of people too busy to implement changes they said they wanted to make, was “What am I willing to change now?”
Each of those statements linked to yet other posts, so this was like three links out with a bonus. I’ve been a bit frazzled lately, so it was good to be reminded of these things.
My most recent project really energized me. I got to work with a skilled expert who’s been thinking about how to increase the skills of new people coming into his field. He doesn’t think he has all the questions, much less all the answers. I hadn’t had that direct contact in a while, nor such a free-flowing exchange.
So part of the “do what you can do” message is getting clear on what I’d like to be doing, or doing more of. Stewart Friedman’s advice include being real (which I read as “true to yourself”), be whole, and be innovative.
As for the being at peace, the second link cited by Goldman, Annie McKee is writing about dealing with pressure and building things into your life to spark both psychological and physical renewal:
- Listen to life’s quiet wake-up calls. Maybe they’re just the small sound life is making in another room. What’s happening (or not happening) while you want for Something to Happen?
- Practice mindfulness. This one’s hard for me. I sometimes fell like Bill Blazejowski in Night Shift (“What if you mix the mayonnaise in the can, with the tuna fish? Or… hold it! Chuck! I got it! Take live tuna fish, and feed ’em mayonnaise! Oh, this is great.”) I have to work at building this, the way you have to work at building muscle strength.
- Find hope. The motto of Detroit is Speramus meliora–“we hope for better things.” Hope is a vote for the future.
- Practice compassion. This isn’t a virtue widely prized in competitive culture, but it’s one I value.
This was a good shift between reports I’m working on and books I’ve been reading.